"That's your problem - you don't wanna be in love. You wanna be in love in a movie." - Rosie O'Donnell as Becky, Sleepless in Seattle
Folks everywhere seem to have strong opinions of one kind or another on how technology is changing us. We're thinking less because we have Google on our phones. We're talking less because we have Facebook on our phones. We are spending less to support entertainment because we have YouTube on our phones. And we like ourselves less because we're comparing ourselves to celebrities the Internet made famous.
This quote from the indomitable Nora Ephron reminds us that we had unrealistic expectations for our own lives long before smartphones and reality television. Watch enough films and you're bound to start judging the people around you just a little more harshly. How dare our co-workers have pores yet no witty dialogue to offer?
I AM NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD STOP WATCHING MOVIES.
Perish the thought, my friend.
I'm just saying that we might need to recognize that technology and media are not the enemies they're made out to be. It's how much we allow ourselves to wallow in them. Granted, the dopamine hit we get from things like Facebook "likes" mean that our lizard brains are being overfed and we risk becoming lizard people, but isn't that all part of the evolutionary process?
As for "You wanna be in love in a movie," I've seen far too many people settle for less than awesome. I'm not saying you should expect Tom Hanks to be waiting for you at the top of the Empire State Building on Valentine's Day, but I've heard some pretty vicious fights and ugly name-calling between people who claim to be in love.
That's not love. And that's certainly not love in a movie, unless the film in question is What's Love Got to Do With It?
I'm just saying that it's possible to reach for the stars without overreaching.